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 		<title>Comment on When Cultures Collide by: John Rekouniotis</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 27 Nov 2008 07:18:20 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description>Dear Fr Antonios,

You are not going to believe it, but I was doing a search on one of my relatives Mark Koussas and you came up as a reference!

Anyway, I read your opening comments and I found  them quite thought provoking, but must be brought to attention of all. I wish you well with the feedback you attain.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[	<p>Dear Fr Antonios,</p>
	<p>You are not going to believe it, but I was doing a search on one of my relatives Mark Koussas and you came up as a reference!</p>
	<p>Anyway, I read your opening comments and I found  them quite thought provoking, but must be brought to attention of all. I wish you well with the feedback you attain.
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 		<title>Comment on When Cultures Collide by: ROMANI SERGYOS</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 28 Oct 2008 22:01:38 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description>Seems for some  it is very hard to adapt in new environmental culture  and do the right thing by others   ....last  Sunday during the mass in our local church St Mary at Mt Druit and as usual as  everybody trying to do  own best to  be attentive  and not to be destructed by any means  from own self by thinking about own   problems  during the mass or being destructed  from anything around in that holy environment  of the church , unfortunately some i believe servants pushing children to kneel down according to our ritual part of the mass, and one of the deacons always  carry own child move up and down during the  mass and in his way thought he is rectifying those problems with the young deacons which i believe things on the contrary are  getting  worst besides the harm he is doing to the rest of the congregation from this continual  destruction  of going up  and down  passing through  congregation  and not only that but specifically that Sunday  even the old deacons got a bit of those instructions as the servant  went to the old  Deacons all of them on the top telling them to kneel down !!!!!????? most of them reacted and refused, i believe it  was too early in that part of the mass to kneel down ??? i wonder why was  that all  ???? i believe that bunch old deacons are great one , cooperative among one another and know exactly what are they doing ??? i believe even if there is a constructive suggestion  to be done for improvement and the person really  in charge why don, t you do it in those regular  meetings with the deacons ??? also  if the person concerned about those knee lings  down of the children why  the problem not to be addressed on Sunday schools for improvement and please no need to distract the rest of the  church congregation  and others ??? i am sorry pal and forgive me &amp;#62;&amp;#62;&amp;#62;</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[	<p>Seems for some  it is very hard to adapt in new environmental culture  and do the right thing by others   &#8230;.last  Sunday during the mass in our local church St Mary at Mt Druit and as usual as  everybody trying to do  own best to  be attentive  and not to be destructed by any means  from own self by thinking about own   problems  during the mass or being destructed  from anything around in that holy environment  of the church , unfortunately some i believe servants pushing children to kneel down according to our ritual part of the mass, and one of the deacons always  carry own child move up and down during the  mass and in his way thought he is rectifying those problems with the young deacons which i believe things on the contrary are  getting  worst besides the harm he is doing to the rest of the congregation from this continual  destruction  of going up  and down  passing through  congregation  and not only that but specifically that Sunday  even the old deacons got a bit of those instructions as the servant  went to the old  Deacons all of them on the top telling them to kneel down !!!!!????? most of them reacted and refused, i believe it  was too early in that part of the mass to kneel down ??? i wonder why was  that all  ???? i believe that bunch old deacons are great one , cooperative among one another and know exactly what are they doing ??? i believe even if there is a constructive suggestion  to be done for improvement and the person really  in charge why don, t you do it in those regular  meetings with the deacons ??? also  if the person concerned about those knee lings  down of the children why  the problem not to be addressed on Sunday schools for improvement and please no need to distract the rest of the  church congregation  and others ??? i am sorry pal and forgive me &gt;&gt;&gt;
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 		<title>Comment on When Cultures Collide by: ROMANI SERGYOS</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 18 Aug 2008 04:15:51 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description>i attended the mass yesterday 17th august 2008 in our local church &quot;St Mary and St Stevens &quot; i was there  with my wife and child at 7.45 and i found a couple of young children and an adult running around i believe they were preparing the altar ...i had my child who got his Tonia and went to the altar but came back and put it in his bag  and returned to give a hand with the others ...at 8.00 one of the priests turned up  up aaaaaaaaaaaaaand the church started ...so far not too bad , but from that time till 9.30 those deacons had been turning  up  in a group of two and others in individual basis and all of the them got permission to dress as deacons except  the last two , i believe  one at 9.20 and the other at 9.30 who i believe they had been turned away ..the question now that we  as parents , we are on trouble now as our young child just a few weeks ago heard the announcement from father Antonios if they want to dress it is between 7.45 and 8.15 and no later than that and we got him up with difficulty this morning to prepare himself to church , he is entirely confused and this will make it difficult for us to get him early to the church ????we are confused too and we wonder is it  one of the cultural problems of  punctuality???!!! might be sort of flexibility ??!! could be i reckon there is an attitude problems at all levels because there are alot of problems around of such kind  ??!!might be  something else it  needs clarification  from the church ???? may God maintain and improve in this part of the world  our spiritual life within our way of life in one positive blessed  standard  in every thing we do and without any confusion to those least , amen ....</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[	<p>i attended the mass yesterday 17th august 2008 in our local church &#8220;St Mary and St Stevens &#8221; i was there  with my wife and child at 7.45 and i found a couple of young children and an adult running around i believe they were preparing the altar &#8230;i had my child who got his Tonia and went to the altar but came back and put it in his bag  and returned to give a hand with the others &#8230;at 8.00 one of the priests turned up  up aaaaaaaaaaaaaand the church started &#8230;so far not too bad , but from that time till 9.30 those deacons had been turning  up  in a group of two and others in individual basis and all of the them got permission to dress as deacons except  the last two , i believe  one at 9.20 and the other at 9.30 who i believe they had been turned away ..the question now that we  as parents , we are on trouble now as our young child just a few weeks ago heard the announcement from father Antonios if they want to dress it is between 7.45 and 8.15 and no later than that and we got him up with difficulty this morning to prepare himself to church , he is entirely confused and this will make it difficult for us to get him early to the church ????we are confused too and we wonder is it  one of the cultural problems of  punctuality???!!! might be sort of flexibility ??!! could be i reckon there is an attitude problems at all levels because there are alot of problems around of such kind  ??!!might be  something else it  needs clarification  from the church ???? may God maintain and improve in this part of the world  our spiritual life within our way of life in one positive blessed  standard  in every thing we do and without any confusion to those least , amen &#8230;.
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 		<title>Comment on When Cultures Collide by: Romani Sergyos</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 23 Jul 2008 02:19:55 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description>Hello Fr Antonios , God bless you ,you hit the nail on the head ..we can not deny there is cultural differences , the question now how we handle it and get around it ????we can not have two standards  the church at all levels including  the old  congregations have  a way of life inside the church and  different one outside of it ....trust , democracy ,dignity , respect , transparency and openness would be lost  !!!so i believe it is all in the hands of the church at all  levels&quot; which i see it difficult to be fixed  at this stage  because the bishop and most of the priests were born and grew oversease  &quot; so it is difficult  to close the gap between the two ways of life and get us and our childern  and our whole church safely in the next decades ...it is a  complete way of life rather doing right or wrong ....may God strengthen our faith , hope and love till thy kingdom come , amen</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[	<p>Hello Fr Antonios , God bless you ,you hit the nail on the head ..we can not deny there is cultural differences , the question now how we handle it and get around it ????we can not have two standards  the church at all levels including  the old  congregations have  a way of life inside the church and  different one outside of it &#8230;.trust , democracy ,dignity , respect , transparency and openness would be lost  !!!so i believe it is all in the hands of the church at all  levels&#8221; which i see it difficult to be fixed  at this stage  because the bishop and most of the priests were born and grew oversease  &#8221; so it is difficult  to close the gap between the two ways of life and get us and our childern  and our whole church safely in the next decades &#8230;it is a  complete way of life rather doing right or wrong &#8230;.may God strengthen our faith , hope and love till thy kingdom come , amen
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 		<title>Comment on When Cultures Collide by: Monika</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 14 Mar 2008 06:17:15 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description>It's not up to me judge people, it's up to me to decide what's right and wrong. 
Stealing is wrong. 
A poor person stealing is still stealing, so it's still wrong. 
I can excuse a poor person for stealing bread, but I cannot say it was the right thing to do. 

Now in saying that, in no way, shape or form am I saying that God would judge a poor person stealing bread like he'd judge a rich theif, hungry for more. All I'm saying is if we don't apply the same principle to all people, our sight will not be clear. It just seems like a dangerous thing to do.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[	<p>It&#8217;s not up to me judge people, it&#8217;s up to me to decide what&#8217;s right and wrong. <br />Stealing is wrong. <br />A poor person stealing is still stealing, so it&#8217;s still wrong. <br />I can excuse a poor person for stealing bread, but I cannot say it was the right thing to do. </p>
	<p>Now in saying that, in no way, shape or form am I saying that God would judge a poor person stealing bread like he&#8217;d judge a rich theif, hungry for more. All I&#8217;m saying is if we don&#8217;t apply the same principle to all people, our sight will not be clear. It just seems like a dangerous thing to do.
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 		<title>Comment on When Cultures Collide by: Shenouda</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 13 Mar 2008 14:01:29 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description>It's so easy to judge people in Egypt...

If the child in your arms that YOU nurtured and God gave you to look after is hungry, and you had no money what would you do...? Its not just poverty in terms of materialism Monika its poverty of the spirit, if all you can think about is getting your next piece of bread for your son or daughter, would you think twice about stealing? If there was NO OTHER way? 

We will be judged much more harshly then they lets look at ourselves before judging .

I think if we were applying it for ourselves black and white yes, to apply black and white on others i don't agree. 

What are your thoughts?</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[	<p>It&#8217;s so easy to judge people in Egypt&#8230;</p>
	<p>If the child in your arms that YOU nurtured and God gave you to look after is hungry, and you had no money what would you do&#8230;? Its not just poverty in terms of materialism Monika its poverty of the spirit, if all you can think about is getting your next piece of bread for your son or daughter, would you think twice about stealing? If there was NO OTHER way? </p>
	<p>We will be judged much more harshly then they lets look at ourselves before judging .</p>
	<p>I think if we were applying it for ourselves black and white yes, to apply black and white on others i don&#8217;t agree. </p>
	<p>What are your thoughts?
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 		<title>Comment on When Cultures Collide by: Monika</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 09 Mar 2008 14:45:47 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description>If we deviate from our black and white, won't everything just be a blur?

I lived in an ideal world, where an ideal Christian knew the difference between right and wrong. In Egypt, what I found was that few drew a line. A whole lot of people lived within this blurry area... Where alot of wrong wasn't really wrong... wrong was ok. I'm not talking about fathers with starving children; I'm talking about lying, cheating, stealing, and horrible horrible treatment of people in lower social classes by people who live a comfortable lifestyle. They do this because everyone else does it, and if they didn't, they probably wouldn't live a comfortable lifestyle. I can understand that they must do that to keep their head above water... But in an ideal world, an ideal Christian should do everything to fight evil, even if it leads them to poverty. Are we supposed to care about materialism? A father with starving children should have the faith that God will provide.. What's the worst that poverty can do? Open up the gates of Paradise sooner?

Of course I speak as an outsider, of an ideal world that we may never see. It is however possible, the Book of Life tells us so. We can do all things through Christ - all that's needed are prayers and faith. Why do we need grey when we have that?

Everything may not be Black and White in the sight of a merciful, righteous, fair and complete God. But to man, I believe that black and white are essential to living with Christ.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[	<p>If we deviate from our black and white, won&#8217;t everything just be a blur?</p>
	<p>I lived in an ideal world, where an ideal Christian knew the difference between right and wrong. In Egypt, what I found was that few drew a line. A whole lot of people lived within this blurry area&#8230; Where alot of wrong wasn&#8217;t really wrong&#8230; wrong was ok. I&#8217;m not talking about fathers with starving children; I&#8217;m talking about lying, cheating, stealing, and horrible horrible treatment of people in lower social classes by people who live a comfortable lifestyle. They do this because everyone else does it, and if they didn&#8217;t, they probably wouldn&#8217;t live a comfortable lifestyle. I can understand that they must do that to keep their head above water&#8230; But in an ideal world, an ideal Christian should do everything to fight evil, even if it leads them to poverty. Are we supposed to care about materialism? A father with starving children should have the faith that God will provide.. What&#8217;s the worst that poverty can do? Open up the gates of Paradise sooner?</p>
	<p>Of course I speak as an outsider, of an ideal world that we may never see. It is however possible, the Book of Life tells us so. We can do all things through Christ - all that&#8217;s needed are prayers and faith. Why do we need grey when we have that?</p>
	<p>Everything may not be Black and White in the sight of a merciful, righteous, fair and complete God. But to man, I believe that black and white are essential to living with Christ.
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 		<title>Comment on When Cultures Collide by: Fr. Antonios Kaldas</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 03 Mar 2008 07:49:59 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description>Thankyou all for your thoughts on this topic. I am really interested in knowing how people view it. Of course we have a responsibility to strive for the highest of Christian ideals in our personal lives and in the life of our community. I agree that right and wrong are not 'relative' concepts. 

But having done a little research into the area of Ethics i must say I am much more forgiving and much slower to condemn than once I was. There always so many circumstances to take into account, so that very, very few issues are black and white in life. For example, would you condemn the poor theif who steals a loaf of bread to save the lives of his starving children?

Having been exposed to the blessing of the high ethical standard expected in western democracies, we have an advantage that many in this world do not. When we see a standard being accepted in Church that is ethically inferior to that accepted at the local RSL Club we clearly have a very, very big problem. We should never accept this. But neither, I think, should be condemn those in other countries whose ethical standards at Church are far superior to those of the society around them. And when they, over there, manage to maintain the same standards that we hold to over here, that is nothing short of heroic!

What do you think?

Fr Ant</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[	<p>Thankyou all for your thoughts on this topic. I am really interested in knowing how people view it. Of course we have a responsibility to strive for the highest of Christian ideals in our personal lives and in the life of our community. I agree that right and wrong are not &#8216;relative&#8217; concepts. </p>
	<p>But having done a little research into the area of Ethics i must say I am much more forgiving and much slower to condemn than once I was. There always so many circumstances to take into account, so that very, very few issues are black and white in life. For example, would you condemn the poor theif who steals a loaf of bread to save the lives of his starving children?</p>
	<p>Having been exposed to the blessing of the high ethical standard expected in western democracies, we have an advantage that many in this world do not. When we see a standard being accepted in Church that is ethically inferior to that accepted at the local RSL Club we clearly have a very, very big problem. We should never accept this. But neither, I think, should be condemn those in other countries whose ethical standards at Church are far superior to those of the society around them. And when they, over there, manage to maintain the same standards that we hold to over here, that is nothing short of heroic!</p>
	<p>What do you think?</p>
	<p>Fr Ant
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 		<title>Comment on When Cultures Collide by: Monika</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 03 Mar 2008 06:33:48 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description>Fr. Antonious, 

I most definitely agree with you on your point.. but there is something that I'm struggling with. In my recent trip to Egypt, I have experienced a lot of these things first hand, and let's just say, it wasn't a happy trip. The corruption and impurity that existed in the country I called home was so unbearable, it brought me to tears. 

At the beginning of my trip, right after I was shocked with the truth, I was foolish enough to think I could actually change something. I quickly got over that fantasy, and so instead, I tried to correct the paths of those closest to me, my family. That too was foolish. They don't see that it's wrong. The corruption they reside in is how they live, it's how they grew up and it's been tattooed into their personalities. How then, can they not do this inside their churches? It's how they live! Just like we teach our kids please and thank you, they teach their kids 'how to survive'. After I lost hope in trying to change the oppinions of my family members, two weeks into my two month 'holiday', I wished I was home and continued to until the day I arrived at the airport. 

During this time, I talked to my family about coming and living in Australia. They always said the same thing, 'we can't leave our church'. They didn’t think our Australian Churches could compare. Jesus lives in our churches too, and so does the corruption I suppose, but on a MUCH MUCHHH smaller scale. 
 
Okay, sorry about dragging on, this is my actual point. If this way of life is accepted outside of church, then it's obviously going to exist in in Churches too. People aren't going to switch their personalities on and off... In order for it not to reach our church communities, it shouldn't be accepted outside of church, in Egypt or Australia, or any other country in the world. Right and Wrong shouldn't change according to where you live.

Monika.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[	<p>Fr. Antonious, </p>
	<p>I most definitely agree with you on your point.. but there is something that I&#8217;m struggling with. In my recent trip to Egypt, I have experienced a lot of these things first hand, and let&#8217;s just say, it wasn&#8217;t a happy trip. The corruption and impurity that existed in the country I called home was so unbearable, it brought me to tears. </p>
	<p>At the beginning of my trip, right after I was shocked with the truth, I was foolish enough to think I could actually change something. I quickly got over that fantasy, and so instead, I tried to correct the paths of those closest to me, my family. That too was foolish. They don&#8217;t see that it&#8217;s wrong. The corruption they reside in is how they live, it&#8217;s how they grew up and it&#8217;s been tattooed into their personalities. How then, can they not do this inside their churches? It&#8217;s how they live! Just like we teach our kids please and thank you, they teach their kids &#8216;how to survive&#8217;. After I lost hope in trying to change the oppinions of my family members, two weeks into my two month &#8216;holiday&#8217;, I wished I was home and continued to until the day I arrived at the airport. </p>
	<p>During this time, I talked to my family about coming and living in Australia. They always said the same thing, &#8216;we can&#8217;t leave our church&#8217;. They didn’t think our Australian Churches could compare. Jesus lives in our churches too, and so does the corruption I suppose, but on a MUCH MUCHHH smaller scale. </p>
	<p>Okay, sorry about dragging on, this is my actual point. If this way of life is accepted outside of church, then it&#8217;s obviously going to exist in in Churches too. People aren&#8217;t going to switch their personalities on and off&#8230; In order for it not to reach our church communities, it shouldn&#8217;t be accepted outside of church, in Egypt or Australia, or any other country in the world. Right and Wrong shouldn&#8217;t change according to where you live.</p>
	<p>Monika.
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 		<title>Comment on When Cultures Collide by: tony</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 26 Feb 2008 03:53:46 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description>It's not tolerance Karim, but sympathy. All leaders in the Bible that has a lengthy part dedicated to him or her, have things which make you ponder whether that was the ideal approach or not to the circumstance that arose upon them. We are called for a constant renewal of the mind- and transformation. You seem to think that you have ideals you wish to strive to, but I assure you during your &quot;striving&quot; you will see more of your failure, and have these very ideals develop more and more towards the ideals of Christ. We should expect that our leaders with us will experience the same transformation that they exhort to us; they aren't dead in their spiritual struggles. They haven't conqueered. We should have leaders that are growing in the grace of God; not pretending to already have completed his/her race.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[	<p>It&#8217;s not tolerance Karim, but sympathy. All leaders in the Bible that has a lengthy part dedicated to him or her, have things which make you ponder whether that was the ideal approach or not to the circumstance that arose upon them. We are called for a constant renewal of the mind- and transformation. You seem to think that you have ideals you wish to strive to, but I assure you during your &#8220;striving&#8221; you will see more of your failure, and have these very ideals develop more and more towards the ideals of Christ. We should expect that our leaders with us will experience the same transformation that they exhort to us; they aren&#8217;t dead in their spiritual struggles. They haven&#8217;t conqueered. We should have leaders that are growing in the grace of God; not pretending to already have completed his/her race.
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